topic of the day

hi everyone no lar we cannot let this blog die away man! its just that everyone's been busy and all ...... working studying..trying to sort their lives out and all....

oh well i was having supper with an old friend..just yesterday and i've always thought of him as the blurrest person and the slowest functioning man on planet earth..and oh well....but yesterday we were talking bout relationships and all...and he said something that struck me and probably i think is one of the smartest thing he has ever said to me after knowing him for like what 8 years already....ahhaha

well we were talking bout relationships and yea....how maintaining a HEALTHY relationship can be super hard...and slowly the spark might just burn off and the passion we once had has disappeared.... and we are merely in a relationship because we are afraid to die alone or just because we are afraid of change, or maybe somewhere in the back of our heads we thnk is he the best one for us? what if we can't find any other man as good as him? but what if i can? all the but's and if's .......


anyway my dear ol' friend said one thing one word ...he said he went around asking what is the success to a wonderful marriage.....

and he said there was this old man that said this to him..the key to a successful marriage is to be

UNFARMILIAR( just this one word)

because when you're always unfarmiliar you're at your best...you're afraid to offend the other person, you want to give your first impresion ( and first impressions are always the best/at your best) ....cause when you're farmiliar you can shout you can scream you can give shit or nonsense to the other person thinking that the other person can accept or is supposed to accept cause you've already known your other half for the longest time.....


so to all the oldies in relationships including me.......always be unfarmiliar with your other half......try it ....just for a day .....see what happens and blog bout it whether you can see the difference or not.....

love always,
suyin